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3 Reasons Why New Dads Need to Embrace and Model the Power of Vulnerability

Therapy for New Dads is Now More Important Than Ever Before.

1.) Kids Notice

We're always modeling because "Being a Role Model is 24 / 7 / 365".

Kids notice what adults, especially their parents, do and don't do. Unfortunately, children often receive the message, "Do as I say, not as I do". Haven't we yet learned that what we do is much more important than what we say? What kind of legacy do we want to leave behind?

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Will Durant (not Aristotle, actually)

2.) We Need to Modernize Masculinity

Whatever plan we had before, it wasn't really working out. Don't believe me? Ask literally anyone, and you will likely find someone who at least knows someone who has suffered to some degree from the consequences of unhealthy forms of masculinity. Many extreme and traditional ideals of masculinity have been under the microscope for decades, and for many traumatic reasons.

Let's model mindful masculinity. Let's model how to use our power and privilege with integrity. Let's embrace the power of vulnerability. Let's modernize masculinity.

You need to think about things differently because it's time to change. Verve Psychotherapy can help with that because mindful masculinity is leading the way with therapy for men & new dads.

3.) Emotions Are Contagious

Wearing a mask to reduce our risk of exposure to COVID-19 is one thing, but wearing the mask you live in to hide your emotions is harmful. Its personally & socially injurious, AND we avoid emotions because that's what many traditional ideals of masculinity have socialized us to do. However, when we - especially men & fathers - tend to avoid our emotions, they harm us more.

Emotions can spread like a cold, and you can “catch” them too. We need to be more thoughtful.

We need to be more intentional to embrace and model the power of vulnerability because, as social learning theory has taught us, our kids notice, and not only do they notice, but they learn from us as well. Kids need us to teach them about emotions and how to respect them too.

So, the next time that we feel that emotion getting bigger, we need to embrace it and model healthy and appropriate ways to express it, work with it, and heal it. Shining a light on your emotions may feel uncomfortable, and we get it. We believe that you have to feel it if you want to heal it.

"Our children are our future and one of the basic responsibilities is to care for them in the best and most compassionate manner possible." - Nelson Mandela

We have immense power to mentor our children and to help them shape the future of the next generation. When you embrace and model the power of vulnerability, you provide the world with a model of leadership that your kids need. We believe you got this, and we're here if you need us.

Therapy for New Dads is Now More Important Than Ever Before.

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